Let It Go

It can be hard to let go of the past, especially for us single mothers. You may wonder, why doesn’t he want to be involved in the child’s life. Why did you make the decision to marry him? Why did you allow him to verbally abuse you? Or tear you down? Or make you have low self-esteem? Why didn’t you make a different decision? Nothing is going to change what has happened. The past is in the past. There isn’t a time machine so you can go back and have a do over. What’s done is done and you need to move on from it.

Moving on is going to require you to forgive certain people, let go of grudges you may have, and even forgive yourself for the decisions you made and what you allowed others to do to you. When you choose to forgive, you are choosing to let it go. You are choosing to not look at them in a negative way and you are choosing not to seek revenge or get them back. Forgiveness is always for you and never for the other person. The only person who will be affected by not forgiving, is you. Now forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. It doesn’t mean you go back and give the person another chance to hurt you. It simply means you are letting go of the past.

Learn to forgive and let it go. Do not go try and make him be a father to the children he does not want to be a father to. Do not try and keep the father from his child because you are mad he cheated and is with someone else. Do not try to hurt the father of your children because he has hurt you. Let it all go.

Letting go is probably one of the hardest things you do. But if you can let go of the grudges, the past, the pain, what you thought it would look like, the person that hurt you, betrayed you, the ex that cheated on you, or the mistress that your husband left you for; you will be free. You will finally be free and able to move forward. The weight will be lifted off your shoulders and you’ll be able to breathe again. You will be at peace. You will still have struggles, but they won’t seem as overwhelming and crippling. You will be able to show your children what strength, grace and compassion are. You can show your children that regardless of what happens, you can make the best of your situation and be happy!!! Show everyone, especially yourself, what true joy is!!!